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Marriage, Man, Woman, and Children

Marriage is a wonderful Gift from God for Man, Woman, Family, and Society

Statement on Marriage: There is only one Marriage

"As Christians, we are committed to Biblical faith and ethics.

As a result, this body of Believers stands on the authority of Scripture and God's Truth as central to our lives.

We join together to support those who stand for natural marriage in the corporate world,
the marketplace, education, entertainment, media and elsewhere with our prayers,
influence, and resources.


The Lord Jesus affirmed that design by quoting Genesis:

"[F]rom the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate" (Mark 10:6-9). Jesus later said: "Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away"

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Without God there can be no marriage, and it would be a sin to prepare for a marriage we know can not happen.

(Mark 13:31). We stake our very lives and future on the
Truth of God's Word." - END

We affirm biblical, traditional, natural marriage as the uniting of

What the Bible says about marriage is clear, definitive and unchanging.one man and one woman in covenant commitment for a lifetime. The Scriptures' teaching on marriage is not negotiable. We stake our lives upon the Word of God and the testimony of Jesus Christ.
Marriage is the greatest relationship (Other than with God)and is a holy relationship between Husband, Wife, and God. That a man and woman may be one before God, and to the world. It is not a perfect relationship, for as man and woman we do and will make mistakes.

God directs us in how to have a great and joyful marriage.

Marriage is intended by God to be a lifelong fruitful relationship exemplifying unconditional love, reconciliation, sexual purity, and growth between a man and a woman. Marriage is a vow to God, to each other, our families and our community to remain steadfast in unconditional love, reconciliation and sexual purity, while purposefully growing in our covenant marriage relationship.
The term "covenant" means "a coming together." In the Bible, the word covenant is translated in Hebrew over 300 times!

The meaning of the Old Testament word is bond; a covenant refers to two or more parties bound together. The New Testament term has usually been translated as covenant, but testimony and testament have also been used. The generally accepted idea of binding or establishing a bond between two parties carries with it the concept of "cleaving," or sticking together like Super Glue!

A marriage is an eternal commitment with God. People can negotiate out of contracts, but not out of a covenant. The heart of covenant marriage is "the steadfast love of the Lord," which comes from the very heart of God and "never ceases" (Lam. 3:22, RSV).

Covenant partners take responsibility for their actions. As partners in a covenant marriage relationship, we are responsible for our actions. An example would be to remain "sexually pure" in our thoughts and actions towards our spouse.

Covenants are based on freedom of choice. Covenant marriages are not built on coercion, deceit, and manipulation. Wives, submission is freely given and grows from respect, not fear and manipulation. In like manner, husband, choose daily to love your wife "as Christ loved the church." You must freely choose to love and honor her in spite of the fact that you may not "feel" like loving and honoring her for as long as you both shall live.

Covenants are rooted in actions based on choices, not feelings. Our feelings are forever fluctuating. Therefore to build a covenant marriage on feelings is to build it on shifting sand, which cannot support the foundation of marriage.

Covenant partners nurture their relationship. Our marriage will grow as we build up one another in love. This takes place when we value our spouse more than ourselves. As we experience the unconditional love of Jesus Christ, we are able to love our spouse as He loves us. Covenant partners administer unconditional love, forgiveness, and reconciliation while providing comfort and hope to their partner.

Covenants are based on commitments freely offered. A covenant is built on selfless love, freely given and freely received. As strange as it may sound, a covenant marriage is one in which the "tie that binds" the couple together is a commitment freely offered with no strings attached. Paul said it well: "Love never fails" (1 Corinthians 13:8).

Holy Matrimony (Marriage) instituted and ordained by God for the lifelong relationship between one
man as husband and one woman as wife to become one before God to fulfill our purpose to God

Marriage is a representation of a person's spiritual relationship with God.

Holy Matrimony (Marriage) instituted and ordained by God for the lifelong relationship between one
man as husband and one woman as wife to become one before God to fulfill our purpose to God

Marriage is a representation of a person's spiritual relationship with God.

Jesus maintained the importance and sacredness of lifelong marriage in his own teachings.
He quoted from both Genesis 1 and 2, stating in Matthew 19:3-6 that God had created humanity as
male and female,[Genesis 1:27] and that in marriage "'the two will become one flesh'.[Genesis 2:24]
So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate".

The most intimate of human relationships, a gift from God, and a sacred institution, to be held in
honour among all…."[Heb. 13:4]

The Bible tells us it is best to stay single, and dedicated to God.

For those who want a helpmate, sex, or a family there is marriage.

Marriage is a very big step. Your making a decision that the other is the most important person to
you, and you are giving your oath to God and each other to standby, defend, support and love each
other for as long as you both shall live, regardless of what happen in the past, or in the future

Our Creator established Holy Matrimony, with its own proper laws.

Holy Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple's love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity.
By this grace they "help one another to attain holiness in their married life and in welcoming and
educating their children." Christ is the source of this grace.

Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise
again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another's burdens, and to love one
another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love”

MARRIAGE WAS DESIGNED FOR COMPANIONSHIP AND INTIMACY.

Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Genesis 2:21-24 (KJV)
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs,
and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they
shall be one flesh.

Sex is a good thing? God created sex. Not only for reproduction--he created sexual intimacy for our pleasure.

The Bible says that sex is a way for a husband and wife to express their love to one another.
God created sex to be a beautiful and enjoyable expression of love, saved only for marriage.

HUSBANDS ARE TO LOVE AND SACRIFICE, WIVES ARE TO SUBMIT.
Ephesians 5:23-32King James Version (KJV)
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the
saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife,
and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

The marriage relationship illustrates the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church. Husbands are urged to lay down their lives in sacrificial love and protection for their wife. In the safe and cherished embrace of a loving husband, what wife would not willingly submit to his leadership?

HUSBANDS AND WIVES ARE DIFFERENT YET EQUAL.

1 Peter 3:1-5 (KJV)
3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

1 Peter 3:7 (KJV)
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Husbands take the authoritative lead in marriage, honor your wife, being kind, gentle, and understanding.
Wives submit to your husband that your godly character and inward beauty will win your husband over more effectively than your words. Husbands are to honor their wives, being kind, gentle, and understanding.

The Word of God says men and women are equal partners in God's gift of new life.
Although the husband exercises the role of authority and leadership, and the wife fulfills a role of submission, both are equal heirs in God's kingdom. Their roles are different, but equally important.

THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IS TO GROW TOGETHER IN HOLINESS.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 (KJV)
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Often in an intimate relationship, there is self-centeredness, greed, wanting to control, hatred, insecurity, and many other issues. These are times we need to be sure we have centered our marriage on Jesus Christ, and pray together as a couple, or even as a family.
If marriage was just about our Love or Happiness, would we need to pledge an Oath? In God's design we are called to lay down our own ambitions to love and serve our spouse. Through marriage we learn about unconditional love, respect, honor, and how to forgive and be forgiven. We recognize our shortcomings and grow from that insight. We develop a servant's heart and draw closer to God. As a result, we discover true happiness of the soul.

Let me ask the guys. If you need help to repair a hot Rod. Are you going to the guy who tools are all messed up and cars never stay running. Or you going to the guy with neat tools, organized and cars always stay running.

If you want to know about marriage, ask somebody that has been married at least 20 yrs

Ephesians 5: 31

Hebrews 13:4. It says, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Genesis 2: 24, which says, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’’

Another common message is the purity of the matrimonial bed.
In Ephesians 5:33, the couple is asked to remain faithful to each other and is advised on how to live with the other person. The husband should love his wife as much as he loves himself. The wife, for her part, is required to honor her husband. According to Corinthians 7:39, divorce is not allowed except when one loses a spouse.

Most marriage services begin with music both to set the mood and to provide background
as the wedding party marches down the isle of the church.

Prelude

Processional

Words of Gathering

God is love, and those who abide in love, abide in God, and God abides in them. This is the day the Lord has made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Greeting

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in God's presence to witness and to celebrate
the marriage of _______ and ________, and to ask God to bless them so that they may
be strengthened for their life together. We are called to rejoice in their happiness,
and find in their love a reason to renew our own commitments to those whom are near
and dear to each of us. God gave us marriage for the full expression of love between
a man and a woman so that husband and wife may cherish and delight in one another;
comfort and help each other in sickness, trouble and sorrow; provide for each other
in temporal things; pray for and encourage each other in the things that pertain to
God; and live together faithfully all the length of their days.

Opening Prayer (minister)
Almighty and ever-blessed God, whose presence is the happiness of every condition,
and whose favor hallows every relation: We beseech you to be present and favorable
unto these your servants, that they may be truly joined in the honorable estate of
marriage, in the covenant of their God. As you have brought them together by your
providence, sanctify them by your Spirit, giving them a new frame of heart fit for
their new estate; enrich them with all grace, whereby they may enjoy the comforts,
undergo the cares, endure the trials, and perform the duties of life together, under
your guidance and protection; through Jesus Christ we pray. Amen.

Hymn or Song

First Reading

(From the Bible, poetry, literature, so something meaningful to the couple their family and friends.Such readings are a good opportunity to have friends and family participate in the service)

Musical Interlude

Second Reading

(The number of readings may vary, but will normally include at least one lesson from the Bible.)

((Please turn and face your family))
Our Creator established Holy Matrimony, with its own proper laws.
Marriage is a very big step. Your making a decision that the other is the most important person to you, and you are giving your Oath to God, each other, and to all who will ever know you, to standby, defend, support and love each other for as long as you both shall live, regardless of what has happen in the past, or in the future Holy Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple's love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity. By this grace they "help one another to attain holiness in their married life and in welcoming and educating their children.
Christ is the source of this grace.

Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another's burdens” “ and to love one another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love”

The marriage relationship illustrates the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church. Husbands are urged to lay down their life in sacrificial love and protection for their wife. In the safe and cherished embrace of a loving husband, what wife would not willingly submit to his leadership?

Do you understand, and agree to what I have read? Couple replies "We Do"

Declaration of Intentions

(The minister to the groom)
_______, will you have this Woman to be your wife, and will you promise your life to
her in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to
live with her, cherish her, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond of
marriage?

The groom shall answer: I will

(The minister to the bride)
_______, will you have this Man to be your husband, and will you promise your life to
him, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to
live with him, and cherish him, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond
of marriage?

The bride shall answer: I will

Here the Minister shall ask: Who gives this Man and this Woman to be married?
(There is a lot of variety in the ways people handle this. The traditional wedding has the father of the bride do this, but many variations are possible, including the father and mother of the bride saying, "We do," or all four parents doing so.) Charge to Family and Friends Marriage is not something that two people invent, or construct by themselves. It takes a far wider community of family and friends to make any marriage work. Each of you have been invited here today because you are a part of that community. Therefore, having heard _______ and _______ state their intentions to each other and to God in this Service of Marriage, do you, pledge to support their union and to strengthen their lives together, to speak the truth to them in love, and with them to seek a life of love for others? The people (or the congregation) shall answer: Yes, we do Minister's Comment (While it is appropriate for a formal sermon to be preached at this point, my own preference is for somewhat less formal comments by the minister.) Marriage Vows Here, the groom takes the bride's right hand with his right hand, and says, after the Minister: I, _______, take you _______, to be my wedded wife; And I do promise and covenant; before God and these witnesses; to be your loving and faithful husband; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; in sickness and in health; as long as we both shall live. Then the bride takes the groom's right hand with her right hand, and says likewise after the Minister: I, _______, take you, _______, To be my wedded husband; and I do promise and covenant; before God and these witnesses; to be your loving and faithful wife; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; in sickness and in health; as long as we both shall live. Exchange of Rings Then the ring for bride shall be given to the Minister, who shall pass it to the groom, who shall then put it upon the bride's fourth finger, saying after the Minister: This ring I give you; in token and pledge; of our constant faith; and abiding love. Then the ring for the groom shall be given to the Minister, who shall pass it to the bride, who shall then put it upon the groom's fourth finger, saying after the Minister: This ring I give you: in token and pledge: of our constant faith: and abiding love. Wedding Prayer (the Minister) Let us pray. Most merciful and gracious God, in whom we live and move and have our being, bestow upon these your servants the seal of your approval, and benediction; granting unto them grace to fulfill, with pure and steadfast affection, the vow and covenant between them made. Guide them together, we ask, in the way of justice and peace, that, loving and serving you, with one heart and mind, all the days of their life, they may be abundantly enriched with the tokens of your everlasting favor, in Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. The Lord's Prayer (The minister leading the congregation) Pronouncement of Marriage Then the Minister shall say to all who are present: By the authority committed unto me as a Minister of the Church of Christ, I declare that _______ and _______ are now Husband and Wife, according to the ordinance of God, and the law of the State; in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen Then causing the bride and the groom and to join right hands, the Minister shall say: Whom therefore God has joined together, let no one put asunder. Benediction The grace of Christ attend you, and the love of God surround you, the Holy Spirit keep you, that you may live in faith, abound in hope, and grow in love, both now and forevermore. Amen. Then the Minister shall say: You many kiss the bride. Jesus maintained the importance and sacredness of lifelong marriage in his own teachings. He quoted from both Genesis 1 and 2, stating in Matthew 19:3-6 that God had created humanity as male and female,[Genesis 1:27] and that in marriage "'the two will become one flesh'.[Genesis 2:24] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate". The most intimate of human relationships, a gift from God, and a sacred institution. to be held in honour among all…."[Heb. 13:4] The Bible tells us it is best to stay single, and dedicated to God. For those who want a helpmate, sex, or a family there is marriage. Marriage is a very big step. Your making a decision that the other is the most important person to you, and you are giving your oath to God and each other to standby, defend, support and love each other for as long as you both shall live, regardless of what happens in the future Our Creator established Holy Matrimony, with its own proper laws. Holy Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple's love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity. By this grace they "help one another to attain holiness in their married life and in welcoming and educating their children." Christ is the source of this grace. Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another's burdens” “ and to love one another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love” MARRIAGE WAS DESIGNED FOR COMPANIONSHIP AND INTIMACY. Genesis 2:18 (KJV) And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:21-24 (KJV) 21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Sex is a good thing? God created sex. Not only for reproduction--he created sexual intimacy for our pleasure. The Bible says that sex is a way for a husband and wife to express their love to one another. God created sex to be a beautiful and enjoyable expression of love, saved only for marriage. HUSBANDS ARE TO LOVE AND SACRIFICE, WIVES ARE TO SUBMIT. Ephesians 5:23-32King James Version (KJV) 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. * * * * * * * The marriage relationship illustrates the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church. Husbands are urged to lay down their lives in sacrificial love and protection for their wives. In the safe and cherished embrace of a loving husband, what wife would not willingly submit to his leadership? HUSBANDS AND WIVES ARE DIFFERENT YET EQUAL. 1 Peter 3:1-5 (KJV) 3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. * * * * * Husbands take the authoritative lead in marriage, honor your wife, being kind, gentle, and understanding. Wives submit to your husband that your godly character and inward beauty will win your husband over more effectively than your words. Husbands are to honor their wives, being kind, gentle, and understanding. The Word of God says men and women are equal partners in God's gift of new life. Although the husband exercises the role of authority and leadership, and the wife fulfills a role of submission, both are equal heirs in God's kingdom. Their roles are different, but equally important. THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IS TO GROW TOGETHER IN HOLINESS. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 (KJV) 1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Often in an intimate relationship, there is self-centeredness, greed, wanting to control, hatred, insecurity, and many other issues. These are times we need to be sure we have centered our marriage on Jesus Christ, and pray together as a couple, or even as a family. If marriage was just about our Love or Happiness, would we need to pledge an Oath? In God's design we are called to lay down our own ambitions to love and serve our spouse. Through marriage we learn about unconditional love, respect, honor, and how to forgive and be forgiven. We recognize our shortcomings and grow from that insight. We develop a servant's heart and draw closer to God. As a result, we discover true happiness of the soul. Let me ask the guys. If you need help to repair a hot Rod. Are you going to the guy who tools are all messed up and cars never stay running. Or you going to the guy with neat tools, organized and cars always stay running. Ephesians 5: 31 Hebrews 13:4. It says, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Genesis 2: 24, which says, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’’ Another common message is the purity of the matrimonial bed. In Ephesians 5:33, the couple is asked to remain faithful to each other and is advised on how to live with the other person. The husband should love his wife as much as he loves himself. The wife, for her part, is required to honor her husband. According to Corinthians 7:39, divorce is not allowed except when one loses a spouse. Most marriage services begin with music both to set the mood and to provide background as the wedding party marches down the isle of the church. Prelude Processional Words of Gathering God is love, and those who abide in love, abide in God, and God abides in them. This is the day the Lord has made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it. Greeting Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in God's presence to witness and to celebrate the marriage of _______ and ________, and to ask God to bless them so that they may be strengthened for their life together. We are called to rejoice in their happiness, and find in their love a reason to renew our own commitments to those whom are near and dear to each of us. God gave us marriage for the full expression of love between a man and a woman so that husband and wife may cherish and delight in one another; comfort and help each other in sickness, trouble and sorrow; provide for each other in temporal things; pray for and encourage each other in the things that pertain to God; and live together faithfully all the length of their days. Opening Prayer (minister) Almighty and ever-blessed God, whose presence is the happiness of every condition, and whose favor hallows every relation: We beseech you to be present and favorable unto these your servants, that they may be truly joined in the honorable estate of marriage, in the covenant of their God. As you have brought them together by your providence, sanctify them by your Spirit, giving them a new frame of heart fit for their new estate; enrich them with all grace, whereby they may enjoy the comforts, undergo the cares, endure the trials, and perform the duties of life together, under your guidance and protection; through Jesus Christ we pray. Amen. Hymn or Song First Reading (From the Bible, poetry, literature, so something meaningful to the couple their family and friends.Such readings are a good opportunity to have friends and family participate in the service) Musical Interlude Second Reading (The number of readings may vary, but will normally include at least one lesson from the Bible.) ((Please turn and face your family)) Our Creator established Holy Matrimony, with its own proper laws. Marriage is a very big step. Your making a decision that the other is the most important person to you, and you are giving your Oath to God, each other, and to all who will ever know you, to standby, defend, support and love each other for as long as you both shall live, regardless of what has happen in the past, or in the future Holy Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple's love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity. By this grace they "help one another to attain holiness in their married life and in welcoming and educating their children." Christ is the source of this grace. Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another's burdens” “ and to love one another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love” Do you understand, and agree to what I have read? Couple replies "We Do" Declaration of Intentions (The minister to the groom) _______, will you have this Woman to be your wife, and will you promise your life to her in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to live with her, cherish her, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond of marriage? The groom shall answer: I will (The minister to the bride) _______, will you have this Man to be your husband, and will you promise your life to him, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to live with him, and cherish him, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond of marriage? The bride shall answer: I will Here the Minister shall ask: Who gives this Man and this Woman to be married? (There is a lot of variety in the ways people handle this. The traditional wedding has the father of the bride do this, but many variations are possible, including the father and mother of the bride saying, "We do," or all four parents doing so.) Charge to Family and Friends Marriage is not something that two people invent, or construct by themselves. It takes a far wider community of family and friends to make any marriage work. Each of you have been invited here today because you are a part of that community. Therefore, having heard _______ and _______ state their intentions to each other and to God in this Service of Marriage, do you, pledge to support their union and to strengthen their lives together, to speak the truth to them in love, and with them to seek a life of love for others? The people (or the congregation) shall answer: Yes, we do Minister's Comment (While it is appropriate for a formal sermon to be preached at this point, my own preference is for somewhat less formal comments by the minister.) Marriage Vows Here, the groom takes the bride's right hand with his right hand, and says, after the Minister: I, _______, take you _______, to be my wedded wife; And I do promise and covenant; before God and these witnesses; to be your loving and faithful husband; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; in sickness and in health; as long as we both shall live. Then the bride takes the groom's right hand with her right hand, and says likewise after the Minister: I, _______, take you, _______, To be my wedded husband; and I do promise and covenant; before God and these witnesses; to be your loving and faithful wife; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; in sickness and in health; as long as we both shall live. Exchange of Rings Then the ring for bride shall be given to the Minister, who shall pass it to the groom, who shall then put it upon the bride's fourth finger, saying after the Minister: This ring I give you; in token and pledge; of our constant faith; and abiding love. Then the ring for the groom shall be given to the Minister, who shall pass it to the bride, who shall then put it upon the groom's fourth finger, saying after the Minister: This ring I give you: in token and pledge: of our constant faith: and abiding love. Wedding Prayer (the Minister) Let us pray. Most merciful and gracious God, in whom we live and move and have our being, bestow upon these your servants the seal of your approval, and benediction; granting unto them grace to fulfill, with pure and steadfast affection, the vow and covenant between them made. Guide them together, we ask, in the way of justice and peace, that, loving and serving you, with one heart and mind, all the days of their life, they may be abundantly enriched with the tokens of your everlasting favor, in Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. The Lord's Prayer (The minister leading the congregation) Pronouncement of Marriage Then the Minister shall say to all who are present: By the authority committed unto me as a Minister of the Church of Christ, I declare that _______ and _______ are now Husband and Wife, according to the ordinance of God, and the law of the State; in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen Then causing the bride and the groom and to join right hands, the Minister shall say: Whom therefore God has joined together, let no one put asunder. Benediction The grace of Christ attend you, and the love of God surround you, the Holy Spirit keep you, that you may live in faith, abound in hope, and grow in love, both now and forevermore. Amen. Then the Minister shall say: You many kiss the bride.


While we affirm our love for all people, including those struggling with same-sex attractions or confused about their biological identity as male or female, we cannot and will not affirm the moral acceptability of homosexual behavior or any other behavior that deviates from God's design for males and females made in His image, including His plan for marriage.

We believe religious freedom is at stake with this critical decision. Consequently,
we join together to support those who stand for natural marriage in the corporate world,
the marketplace, education, entertainment, media and elsewhere with our prayers,
influence, and resources.

Regardless of what the Supreme Court rules, our first duty is to love and obey God, not man. Therefore, we strongly encourage all pastors, leaders, educators, and churches to openly reject any mandated legal redefinition of marriage and to use their influence to affirm God's design.

Consequently, we will not accept, nor adhere to, any legal redefinition of marriage issued by any political or judicial body including the United States Supreme Court.

We will not recognize same-sex "marriages", our churches will not host same-sex ceremonies, and we will not perform such ceremonies.
Marriage according to the view of Pastor Jay Randolph

Every person is special with their own values, likes, and dislikes.
There is no way I can tell you if the person your engaged to is the right person or not for you
You need to get to know each other, now, and in the past. Family, friends, where they lived and went to school. If you like I can supply you with a list to get you started.

What I can tell you about is my marriage, or at least from my view.

To start with, I meet a beautiful woman who was above my level, maybe a few levels, and everybody knew it.

She enjoyed a good conversation, as I did. Even though there were many subjects we disagreeded on, we could have a long conversation about it without either of us getting upset.

Being from the Boston area, she also talked funny, which I liked.

I was surprised how easy it was for us to talk about anything, although there were many subjects she did not like talking in public about. After a year I started asking her to marry me. Unlike the commercials on TV, she did not say yes right away. I lost count of how many times I asked her. When she finally did say "YES", I thought she was joking.

When we got married, I thought I was madly in love with her. After a few years, I realized. You do not get married when your in love, you get married to grow in love. It is not until you stand before God, to take an Oath to God and each other to become one before Him, for as long as you both shall live. That is a very long time. But once you make that commitment to be one, a bond grows, that only another Christian who is married can understand.

I think we have had our share of storms, and I think we have lived through somethings that most marriages will not have to go through. We have both done things for each other that we would never do for anyone else. And I still know how lucky I am to be marred to Debbie.

I married my best friend. We like to do everything together. We managed business together, and we were over the road truck-drivers together. We are constructively supportive of each other. I taught my wife to drive an 18 wheeler, most people thought we were crazy, but we enjoyed it.

Nothing makes chores better than doing them with your best friend, who you deeply love, although sometimes there are chores best for us to do alone.

I know not all of my dates thought I was great, and I had a few who had things that bothered me. But being married, those seem to become good things.

For example, I wake up at times during the night and like to just watch my wife sleep, run my hands through her hair, or touch her face, and sometimes when feeling a little froggy, I will tickle her lip, but that always gets me in trouble.

I would rather do dishes with my wife, than to do anything without her.

Have you ever heard someone refer to marriage as the ball and chain? I always question that. To me, the ball and chain is single life. Think about those 1st dates. You do not know what to wear, how to act, what to say, do we talk about relationships, family, weather, let her order, or order for her. You are stuck trying to be someone you are not. You know your a good person, but would this person think so if they knew who you are, are one of you going to run into an old relationship, or friend. And how about the people who can not wait for sex. How do you bring up the subject. is something going to happen you do not like, are you sure this person is who you think they are, what is acceptable or not, could you get hurt, a painful disease, a lifetime disease, or something that will kill you, or if she gets pregnant, are you prepared to raise a child with each other.

A happy marriage allows you to be you, and keeps you from having to put on a show for others.

In marriage you naturally hug, kiss, hold hands, cuddle, share, build trust, inside jokes and do things like church, movies, have meals together. On my worst day, I am grateful for my wife. Her just walking through the room brightens everything. My wife tells me i am prideful, I see it as grateful. It is like I traded a bike for a motorcycle, it is a great deal for me, but it does not seem logical.

Do you love those commercials that say, everybody is like this, and you think, I am NOT.

I talk about twice as much as my wife
I am the one who loves romance
I am the one who always want us to have more conversations
I am the one who likes to shop, even if just window shopping
And I will never be able to keep my hands off of her, or get tired looking in her eyes, or even listening to her sleep, but i am trying to stop tickling her lip when she sleeps.

God tells us it is better to stay single and dedicated to God. However, I do not want to even think about living one day without my wife.

So yes, to me marriage is great. But it takes a man and a woman who has value in their word, and willing to love each other forever.

June 24, 2019 we are having a wedding to celebrate our 25 years, and I pray there will be at least another 25 yrs.

SCWC Home Church
Pastor Jay Randolph
3 Laurel Lane
Apt B
Georgetown, MA 01833

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Without God there can be no marriage, and it would be a sin to prepare for a marriage we know can not happen. — Pastor Jay Randolph