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Early Detection Saves Lives Most people think they know about Breast Cancer, but if you have not gone through it, your not even close My wife is very sick almost everyday, stays in bed almost all the time, spends a lot of time laying  in the bathtub crying from the pain and from being sick She can eat almost nothing, one week she can only eat soup, another week only Jell-O,  this week potatoes seems to be the magic food She is up all through the night, and needs help getting in and out of bed, in and out of the tub.  And this is a woman who was full of life just 3 months ago And the expense. . . not counting redoing the bathroom, building a ramp to the deck, the wheel chair and hospital bed is an extra $500 per month for cobra payments for an insurance we used to get through her employer and another $300 per month for medications and Doctor visits. To all the women out there, get a mammogram now, do not put it off, call your doctor now and get an appointment now. Most Brest Cancer is treatable and the earlier you start the easier, and cheaper it will be for you There are many types of Chemo, if your Cancer is discovered in the early stages  you could have chemo in the morning and then go to work without being sick. . . . which is a lot better than what my wife has to deal with. Cancer Stage goes from 0 to 4, my wife is in stage 3 I would very much like to hear from each of you with the news that you,  your wife or girlfriend, daughter or sister had her mammogram For any woman under 40, Insurance usually will not pay for a mammogram, however your Doctor can do what is  called a baseline, which will help them detect cancer faster. My wife is determined to beat this Cancer, and she will, but it tears me up everyday to see what  she has to go through for a very, very long time. . . and there is very little I can do for her. Please, get a Mammogram, and get it Now !! Breast cancer is the most common cancer in women,  but it can be successfully treated. The  key? Early detection. Reminder - Are you doing your monthly self checks?  The most effective way to prevent serious situations with  breast cancer, is to get to know your breast.  When you do your monthly check, you'll recognize any changes that seem suspicious -  and you can take life-saving actions. Here’s the easy, effective way do your monthly checks which will make your fingers work like magnifiers.  It’s an amazing new patented, FDA compliant, medical device that you use at home. It’s very inexpensive, is reusable month after month, and is a reminder tool as well as and early detection product. It’s called Plexus Pink and is available through the Breast Cancer Support Center now. It retails for $37.95 US.  How can you not buy one for yourself, your siblings, your relatives, your friends? All together you can form a buddy check team – each of you reminding others to use the breast check kit, to avoid the costly experience of advanced cancer. Visit the website now. Breastchek4u.com/cancer coach to watch the video demonstration. Then click the “back” button to return here.       My wife has Breast Cancer, and her insurance from her ex employer expires the middle of June. We have applied for Medicaid, disability and have applied for other assistance To keep the insurance on my wife will cost us about $500 per month which we do not have We have tried getting information on this nasty disease but it has been very difficult This site is designed to support my wife in her fight for life against Breast Cancer. As I gather information about dealing with Breast Cancer I will post it here If you have a suggestion as to what Breast Cancer information should be listed here  or if you have advice, would like to send Debbie encouragement or donation, please send it to DEBBIE CANCER

 

Debbie, 55, is receiving proper treatment at Trident in Charleston, SC
Debbie is a mother of 4 and Grandmother to 2 very special girls.  She has always been there ready to cheer others up and to do what she could to help others.  However she has not been able to work for the last 2 months and spends much of her time laying in the bathtub crying but has been determined to beat this sickness.

Debbie has been too sick most weeks to even make it through Church service and most foods just make her worst
now her White cells have bottomed, they are giving her shots hoping to increase her White Cells, but she is still concerned with 
how I am doing.

We have had great support from our Family, our small but very supportive Church and she had her insurance from her employer.  But now that she can not work she will lose her insurance unless we could pay the $500 per month for her to be insured.

If she can make it till Feb the Doctors feel she will beat this Cancer.
She has had surgery twice, and should have one more surgery, 22 more weeks of Chemo and about 8 weeks of Radiation.
We have filed for Food stamps, Medicaid, Disability

She gets very depressed when I go out of town for work, but we have to have money to pay for bills
and for now I have neighbors who have been staying with her

'READY TO DIE'

While out of town working I have talked with Debbie who was crying saying I cant do this

EMERGENCY SITUATION

If you have never had to ask for help, your lucky
We have helped plenty and we were glad to do so and knew we made a huge difference in there life, I guess now we know we had done more than we realized. . . Now we need help

HARD FINDING HELP

It's not uncommon for hospitals to seek money up front.  In fact, it's becoming a trend, partly due to high-deductible insurance plans, many of which have bigger out-of-pocket costs for patients, adding to their financial burden.

HOLDING OUT HOPE

We are asking for all and any help
    Money to pay medical bills
    Help filing for support
    Anything she could do from home to make money
    Just anything that would help us through this


Help Debbie Randolph Beat this Sickness " Breast Cancer" 

 

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I started this site you give my wife a place to post her thoughts and feelings,
she says maybe later but not for now

so I will post my outlook on everything as her husband.  
I have experienced many things in my life, but I have never been scared as I am now.

I am not afraid to die, but I am scared about losing my wife . . .
I worry about her all the time, and it hurts so badly to watch her lay there in pain and not be able to do anything about it . . .it is my very sincere prayer that nobody would ever have to go through what my wife is going through.  I always knew my wife did a lot for me and at our home, but I had no idea how much until she was too sick to even care for herself.

My wife tries not to let me know how bad she feels, for while she is going through this torture, she is worried about me.  So instead I will try to put into words what this is like for me.

Our Church, Friends and Family have been great with support, and it seems the only time we get a little relief is while we have company visit, then after that it is back to the stress.

Have you ever broke up with somebody and listen to the songs you listen to together, even though it just made you hurt more . . . well that is what it is like learning about Cancer.  You know the more you learn the more it will hurt.  . but you just have to learn everything about Cancer regardless of how much it hurts.

And to any guys reading this . . . the best thing you could do for any woman in your life is to encourage them to have a breast exam . . and even if they are under 30, they should have a baseline.

My wife's first surgery was to remove the cancer in her Breast, after the surgery, the surgeon went on about how great a job he did and how he even removed areas around the cancer to make sure he got it all, now we are one day away from April fools day and she had her 2nd surgery, this time they find that half of her lymph nodes have cancer so she will have  to have 24 chemo treatments, 12 radiation treatments, and hopefully that will do the job, then she will need 5 years of hormone treatments, but hormone treatment is very easy on the body.

July: My wife's doctor is suppose to be one of the best around, however every time he gives us a  little hope, he is always wrong . . .so it must really be rough on everybody else, at this point anything not bad is good

 August:  My wife is still unable to do anything for herself.  She is very weak and always sick.  She gets up for about 2 or 3 hrs in the morning and then it is to bed.  Our friends and family are tired of hearing about it, although they try to act like they are interested.  She will never be able to go to work again so she is trying to apply for SSI.  We are hoping we can get a family member move in so I can be out of town

I know my wife needs me at home, but the bills have to be paid and I could use some time away.
although the fuel prices is killing my business.

Sept:  Well phase 1 is over, now we have Chemo every wk, but it is a different type of chemo and is suppose to be easier on her body, so hopefully she will not be as sick or in as much pain.

 We went to the doctor today, her body is crashing from all the chemo, so the doctor has suspended the chemo for now and keeping her on bed rest.  She is sick, unable to sleep and she bruises just by touching something.  For example she tried to blend some mashed potatoes  and her hands and fingers turned blue from bruising.  The doctor keeps saying she is going to beat this, but to me it just seems to keep getting worse.

I so wish this was over, I am so tired, just worn out. . . I can not even guess how hard this is on her.

I try  not to show how worried I am, but have given a lot of thought to what I would do without her,
she has become my world, We don't do anything without each other. . . I will be so lost without her.

Oct:  I am so sick of doctors and hospitals, but we did get some good news today, they checked her heart yesterday and got the results today, her heart still has not been damaged. . . so she will start back on the chemo next week.  Sometimes I wonder how much of this is cancer and how much is just my wife.

Let me explain, my wife and I have made each other our center of attention

We use to do everything together.  We used to lay together and watch TV, we cuddled and fondled all the time,
we would grab or pet each other when we walked by and we had a very active sex live, then last yr she seemed to turn cold, then we found she had cancer. . . . now we do not kiss, hug, cuddle or anything . . . its like I am taking care of my sister.

She does not see it, she tells me there is more to marriage than sex and I agree
but it seems if I am suppose to give up everything and she gives up nothing
I have gained 30 pounds in 6 months, so something has got to change

By doctor says it is because of stress.  I have given up friend foods, beef, sweets and fatty foods, but I still gain the weight.  Now the doctor has me walking 30 minutes a day to reduce stress. . . I do not see this making a difference, but I am doing the walking.

And besides this everything I do seems wrong
I do the dishes, its wrong, I am too noisy, or put things in the wrong place

When I fix meals. . . she does not care what I fix, till I fix it and then it is 
         either not what she wanted or not cooked the way she wants it

When cleaning house, I am always cleaning on the wrong day of the week, 
          but to her everyday is the wrong day

When I do laundry, what ever I wash should of been washed before 
or after something else, or I should not was this item with that item

And the dryer, I dried too long, not long enough, 
              or something that should not be put in the dryer

She is up during all hours of the night, and expects me to be up also

and her appts she is upset that I wake her, but when she says to wake 
                 her at a set time she is late and again its my fault.

I do love my wife, and I understand a lot or most of this is due to the cancer

Sometimes I feel she some how thinks I am to blame for her breast cancer

Oct 3, 2008  Well we do have some good news . . . you see our credit is soo shot now
                      That we no longer have to stress over it, no matter what happens, our credit can not 
                      get any worse, so at least that is one less thing for us to worry about.

Oct 8, 2008 We have a Doctor appt today to  see if Debbie's health has improved enough to finish her Chemo.
                    We are both praying and asking everyone else to pray she can finish her chemo, and that she
                     will  live through all this.

Oct 3,2008  Debbie's feet are turning blue, and if she holds anything to tight or pick up something too 
                    heavy her hands look like they were painted blue, from bruising.  Looks like it will be 
                    another week before she continues her chemo.

Oct 13,2008  Debbie's Doctor is going to have her go in on 2 days for shots to help raise her white cells, 
                            then he is going to try and get her through 2 more chemo treatments, then she will have about 
                      a months break and then 3 months of Radiation, which she will have to go to the hospital
                      everyday for 3 months.

                     At this point it looks like she will be able to start building her strength In March of 2009, if all 
                     goes well. . . and depends on the about of damage the radiation does to her lungs and heart . . .
                     but at least then we will know if she is going to survive the cancer.

Oct 20, 2008  Debbie is still having health problems from all the chemo.  She is in bed about 18 to 20 hrs a day
                             and her toes and fingers keep turning blue.  Her doctor decided more Chemo would be too risky
                       for her health . . . so she is one with the Chemo, or at least till after Radiation so now she will get
                       a few weeks rest before the Radiation starts.

Nov 3, 2008  Great news, Debbie is feeling better, she even made it through Sunday School And Church
                      She is walking around in th4 house and even walked into petsmart without use of her wheelchair
                      I never though being stubborn was a good sign, but for her it shows she is feeling better.

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If you have any questions or suggestions about Breast Cancer, 
please contact us at debbiecancer843@yahoo.com